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Domestic Violence

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If you choose to stay

If you are a victim of domestic violence, you might not be ready to leave your spouse right away.

But you should know that in most cases the abuse tends to get worse later, unless they are truly committed to changing their abusive behaviours.

Talk about what you're going through

It takes courage to reach out for help but know you are not alone. A lot of abused partners find it helpful to talk to someone they trust.

Victim Services can help you learn more about your options. You can contact us on the phone, drop in, make an appointment or send us an email.

You don’t have to report the crime to access our services.

Know how to get help in an emergency

If you have to act quickly, be prepared.

Know where you’ll go in an emergency and how you’ll get there. If you want to go to a transition home, know their phone number and location.

Identify some safe friends or family members you can call for help.

If you can get to the phone, dial 911 in Whitehorse or call the RCMP if you are in a community. You don’t have to be afraid for your life to get help, but if you are worried you are about to be hurt tell them so they will get there faster!

Find out more about what will happen if the police are involved.

Make a safety plan

If you decide to stay, it is a good idea to develop a safety plan for you and your children.

A safety plan involves having important identification and documents and emergency money in a safe, easy to access place.

It is about establishing an escape plan and letting people you trust know what is going on. You can call a transition home and work out a code word in case you have to call in a crisis.

You might consider leaving an emergency bag at a friend’s place. If you have pets, you might need to make arrangements for them as local transition homes don’t allow pets.

Find out more about what might happen if you choose to leave.

Internet Safety

Keep in mind that your abuser may try to read your emails as a way of keeping tabs on what you are doing. If you believe your email account is secure, make sure you choose a password he or she will not be able to guess.

He or she may also be able to see information you have viewed recently on the internet. You can change your browser settings so there is no record of the places you visit on the internet. Read internet safety for a step-by-step guide on changing your settings and clearing your cache.

Document the abuse

If you decide to stay, consider documenting the abuse. Keep a record of the abuse (type, date and time, location, names of witnesses and so on). This might be useful later.

If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing e-mail messages, print them and save them as evidence of this abuse.

Be sure to keep your record hidden and only write things down when its safe to do so.